“Give Yourself A Hug” is about becoming aware on how you talk to and treat yourself, and if there is a struggle to be kind and loving to yourself, then the first step is to acknowledging that this is happening, then to start incorporating new positive ways to try out to help build and increase self- love and self-compassion. It is important to NOTE here that “No One” can give you self-love and that this ability can only come from within you and given to you by yourself.
What This Looks Like?
Loving yourself unconditionally means accepting your worth regardless of how you feel about yourself and your flaws, your past mistakes that you can’t change, or your circumstances that you may feel powerless about. How you see yourself and treat yourself can be improved as mentioned, by practicing self-love and self-compassion, setting boundaries for yourself and with others, replacing the constant self-criticism and negative self-talk with kindness and understanding as you would do to a loved one or a friend, and lastly to remember to “Give Yourself a Hug” when needed, which may feel and sound a little strange, but this action actually works wonders by expanding one’s heart chakra energy levels inwards and outwards.
Following are some Key Practices.
- Firstly become aware of any Negative self-talk that you are thinking, then acknowledge the thought and state that you don’t believe this thought and instead adopt a caring voice, reinforcing your thinking by saying a positive affirmation or a positive statement.
- Set Boundaries by learning to say “No” when it is needed especially to people who are energy drainers that rarely give back to you and just take, doing this will protect your time, energy and mental wellbeing.
- Stop Outsourcing your worth, by relying on others to make you feel valued, accept your own worth and stop trying to please everyone else as this only leaves one feeling empty and compromised.
- Be Your Own Parent, with validation, care and supportive words, like when it was needed when you were a young child by your own parents, which in turn gave you confidence and encouragement.
- Forgive yourself, accept that mistakes are part of being human. Instead of self-loathing, respond with compassion and understanding as you would to a friend or loved one.
- Engage in regular self-care routines, take time out for self, go for a walk in nature and dedicate time to activities that bring you contentment, follow your passions or participate in hobbies that you enjoy.
- Accepting yourself as you are today, rather than holding out for a “future improved” version, is a powerful act of self-love, as when you do accept yourself as you are now then a change occurs naturally.
- Surround yourself with positive caring people who support you and lift you up and who have your best interests at heart. Move away from any relationship that makes you feel on edge or drained.
- Practice journaling your emotions, mindfulness techniques, exercising to boost endorphins and prioritizing self-care as you are the only one who can totally Love and Accept Yourself!
By adopting these practices, even if it is to implement one of them at a time, you will stop focusing on what you do wrong and instead you will start accepting and loving yourself completely as you are – a perfect self…..And Don’t forget to Give Yourself a Hug when its needed!
My SoulCollage® Card
“I Need A Hug!”– Committee Suit
Q/ Who are You?
I Am One Who may be smiling outwardly looking the part of someone that has it all and who is totally together and truly blessed…BUT this is a lie – as I don’t. I Am One Who is very alone and lonely and although I may look like all is ok, in reality I’m not and I need to be honest with myself and stop hiding behind this fake smile! I Am One Who knows when I need a Hug and Boy do I need one right now, and if I don’t do this for myself No one will…so here I go!
Q/ What is Your Message for Me?
It’s ok to feel and be lonely Elaine and when you are feeling desperate, sad and totally feel like giving up, know that there is such loving caring and genuine energy coming to you and always will be. So give yourself a Big Hug and imagine the love that you crave is already there inside of you waiting to be touched, acknowledged and felt, even if it is just giving yourself a Big Hug or Dreaming of being in a Beautiful Lavender field in France, take in that wonderful energy, it’s there for you to take, so take it!
Sometimes we make “Challenging Cards” that look pretty and happy but when we start to Journal with the “I Am One Who” process that we use in SoulCollage®, we may find the card expressing sad and hurtful emotions which can be challenging to deal with, but this is an opportunity to accept that part of ourselves to move us towards self-healing.
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